Earth Day and Easter: Dying Eggs the Natural Way

Last year, Derek was too young to participate in the dying of Easter eggs.  This year, being less than a month from his second birthday, he had his first experience with Easter egg dying.  Although I know he doesn’t understand the true meaning of Easter, or anything about the tradition of dying eggs and egg hunting, it was still a fun activity to do with him.

Since Easter was late this year and near Earth Day, I was looking for a way to dye eggs using natural ingredients instead of using the dye packs that you buy in the store.  I found this website that gave me a lot of ingredient options to create the colors I wanted for the eggs.

http://whatscookingamerica.net/Eggs/EasterEggDye.htm

I chose to make orange (carrots did not work for me, I used paprika), yellow (green tea-I used 4 bags and a cup of water), green (spinach), and purple (a can of beets).  I wanted to make blue, but it was hard to track down canned blueberries and the grape juice did not work for blue.  Four colors was really enough for an almost 2 year old anyway!

The eggs turned out pale. That was because Derek didn’t want to leave them in the dye very long! 

Celebrating Derek's Heritage Part 2: Maternal Side

Tonight we celebrated Derek’s maternal side with some German food.  Recently, I have learned more about my father’s side of the family.  I knew that my great grandparents (my grandad’s parents) were originally from Germany.  A copy of their marriage certificate, in German (translated into English), has surfaced and a scanned copy has been e-mailed around the family.  I can’t wait to find out any other information my second cousins discover!

On to dinner…

I have had a slow cooker recipe for sauerbraten in my file for years.  I like slow cooker recipes that have few ingredients and are cooked for 8 or more hours (so I can safely leave them while I am at work without risk of burning).

While this requires few ingredients, there is some prep work.  First, the beef has to be marinated for 24-48 hours.  So finding room in the refrigerator was a challenge.  With two full size refrigerators you’d think it’d be an easy task…but I had to move around quite a few things to fit the large bowl in there.

After about 36 hours, my roast was ready for the slow cooker.  Bryan was wonderful and turned on the slow cooker when he left for work.  When I arrived home, 9 ½ hours later, it smelled wonderful and the meat was ready!

The next step was to prepare the gravy.  After removing the roast from the slow cooker and placing it onto a cutting board, I added crushed ginger snaps to the slow cooker and turned it up to high.  Fifteen minutes later, the gravy was ready!

Sauerbraten was served with egg noodles and red cabbage. (and some veggies, of course)

For dessert, we had apple crisp over ice cream.

My next adventure in celebrating my heritage will be to attempt to make a yummy breakfast that my mom mom used to make whenever she would stay at our house.  I can’t tell you the name, not because it’s a secret, but because I think it was made up and I can’t spell it!  Here…I will try, I will spell it phonetically:  woofinpoofins.

Cooking Frenzy: Vegetarian

As you know I love to cook.  Most importantly, I love to cook ahead of time and freeze meals.  This helps me to plan my menu a month in advance and it allows me to spend more time with my family when I get home from work without having to compromise nutrition by serving pre-packaged meals or stopping for carry out on the way home.  My family enjoys home cooked meals at least 6 nights a week.  (We allow for one take out/carry out night, usually on Friday.)

Bryan has been staying with his parents to help take care of his father.  My job has been to be the “Meals on Wheels” for them.  This allows Bryan time to spend with his parents without having to spend a lot of time preparing food for them.  It’s already done.  

Bryan’s uncle and cousin will be visiting from Australia for a while.  They are vegetarian.  My new challenge is to cook vegetarian meals that can be frozen and easily cooked or reheated. 

I began the challenge by contacting friends who might have some good vegetarian recipes.  Then I took a trip to the bookstore and bought two vegetarian cookbooks.  I also searched the internet for more ideas.  What I found, vegetarian cooking seems to be more complicated than other cooking!  The recipes themselves involve more work and I was unable to find zucchini, which was in the majority of the recipes I found that were simply and quick.

Here are the things I have made thus far.

Spinach Stuffed Shells (my own recipe)

1 box of Jumbo Shells

ricotta cheese (I buy the big one and keep what I don’t use for next time)

parmesan cheese (I use the Kraft brand)

1 bag of shredded mozzarella cheese

1 28 oz jar of pasta sauce (or your own homemade sauce)

box of frozen spinach, thawed, and rung out

1. Cook the pasta according to package directions.
2. Ring out the spinach with a clean dish towel to get out all of the water.
3. Mix ricotta, some mozzarella cheese, some parmesan cheese, spinach, and a little pasta sauce (just enough to turn it pink), in a bowl.  This is the filling.
4. When shells are finished being cooked, drain them, let cool a little, then fill them with the mixture and place them into an aluminum pan.
5. When pan is full, cover with sauce and shredded cheese.
6. If cooking frozen, try to thaw them out the night before or they can go directly into the oven.  350 for 1-1 ½ hours. (uncovered)
7. If cooking right away, 350 for about 30 minutes.

**For the three of us, I make a square pan and it fits 12-15 shells.

Carrot and Ginger Soup 

From the book Vegetarian Cooking: A Commonsense Guide

1 tablespoon of olive oil

1 onion, chopped

1 tablespoon of fresh grated ginger

3 cups of vegetable stock

2 lbs. 4 oz. Carrots, chopped

2 tablespoons chopped cilantro

1. Heat oil in a large saucepan, saute onion and ginger over medium heat for 5 minutes or until onion is soft.
2. Add stock and carrot.  Bring to a boil, then reduce heat and simmer 10-15 minutes or until carrot is tender (this took me about 30 minutes)
3. Process the soup in batches in a blender or food processor (I used the Magic Bullet).  Return to the saucepan and add a little more stock or water to thin it to your preferred consistency.
4. Add salt and pepper to taste.  Stir in chopped cilantro and serve.

Addictive Sweet Potato Burritos

www.allrecipes.com

2 teaspoons vegetable oil

5/8 onion, chopped

2-3/4 cloves garlic, minced

4 cups canned kidney beans, drained

1-1/3 cups water

2 tablespoons chili powder

1-1/4 teaspoons ground cumin

2-3/4 teaspoons prepared mustard

5/8 pinch cayenne pepper, or to taste

2 tablespoons soy sauce

2-2/3 cups cooked and mashed sweet potatoes

8 (10 inch) flour tortillas, warmed

5 ounces shredded Cheddar cheese

1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees
2. Heat oil in a medium skillet, and saute onion and garlic until soft. Stir in beans, and mash. Gradually stir in water, and heat until warm. Remove from heat, and stir in the chili powder, cumin, mustard, cayenne pepper and soy sauce.
3. Divide bean mixture and mashed sweet potatoes evenly between the warm flour tortillas. Top with cheese. Fold up tortillas burrito style, and place on a baking sheet.
4. Bake for 12 minutes in the preheated oven, and serve.

**I found that I had a lot of leftover bean mixture.  Maybe I didn’t stuff them as full but it seemed that if I put even more in the tortillas then they would definitely be too difficult to fold!  So I think it would be easy to make more than 8 burritos with this recipe.

Nondairy Chocolate Pudding

From the book Double Delicious! By Jessica Seinfeld

8 oz. Silken tofu

1 cup light soy milk

1 packet unflavored gelatin (such as Knox brand)

4 oz. Semisweet chocolate chips

2 tablespoons of honey

1. Place tofu in the food processor and mix until smooth and creamy.
2. Bring soy milk to a boil in saucepan.  Whisk in gelatin.
3. In a medium bowl, pour the hot soy milk over the chocolate chips.  Whisk to blend.  Add the honey and whisk again.
4. Pour the tofu into the chocolate mixture and whisk until blended together.
5. Pour into a clean serving bowl and chill for 2 hours.

Bell Peppers Stuffed with Rice, Spinach, and Sun-Dried Tomatoes

From the book One-Dish Vegetarian Meals by Robin Robertson

4 large bell peppers, any color

½ cup sun-dried tomatoes packed in olive oil

1 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil

1 large bunch spinach, washed, trimmed, and coarsely chopped

1 garlic clove, minced

3-4 cups of cooked rice (I used brown)

1. Preheat oven to 350
2. Slice off the tops of the peppers and remove the seeds and membranes.  Plunge peppers into a pot of boiling water and cook for 2-3 minutes or until slightly softened.  Remove and set aside, cut side down, to drain.  Chop tomatoes and set aside.
3. Heat oil in large skillet over medium heat.  Add spinach, garlic, and tomatoes and cook until spinach is wilted, 2-3 minutes.  Add rice and stir to combine.  Fill peppers with rice mixture and place upright in a baking dish.  Add a few tablespoons of water the to baking dish, cover and bake until filling is hot and peppers are tender.  30-40 minutes.

**I made a double recipe and had leftover stuffing.  The stuffing was super on it’s own for dinner.  

Celebrating Derek's Heritage Part 1: Paternal Side

Yesterday, January 26, was Australia Day.  This is an important day that we celebrate every year because Bryan is half Australian.  His father (Derek’s Grandpa) was born and raised in Australia and Bryan still has family there.  Below is a link to more information on Australia Day.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Australia_Day

Our original plan for dinner was to call Outback and order dinner.  Bryan would pick it up on the way home.  But, I was surprised with a snow day and schools were closed so I was able to stay home and plan a homemade dinner menu.  This meal was prepared together.  It was a fun experience to prepare our pieces of the meal in the kitchen while Derek played with his pots and pans.  It has been a long time since we have been able to do that.

Earlier in the day, I made Anzac Biscuits.  However, we decided to use chocolate chips and it made them very chocolatey.  I guess it’s a tradition with a twist.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ANZAC_biscuit

I also made cheese scones.  They were so easy to make!

We began with a Bloomin Onion  (Outback recipe) that Bryan made.

Next, we had our meal.  Bryan grilled steak and Shrimp on the Barbie (Outback recipe).  I made pureed carrots with ginger.

Since dinner was prepared later than our normal dinnertime, Derek had already eaten.  However, he wanted to sit with us so we gave him a plate with a shrimp, a spoonful of carrots, and a piece of scone.  He did not eat any of it.  I was not surprised because these are not things he generally prefers to eat.  He also did not like the Anzac Biscuit. 

Unfortunately, we did not get to celebrate with Derek’s Grandpa this year, but he was in our thoughts as we ate our meal.  We sent some Anzac Biscuits over to their house today.  It was great to celebrate Derek’s heritage on his paternal side of the family.  Within the next few weeks we plan to explore his maternal side of the family with a German meal.

Cooking Frenzy!!!

I went back on my crazy cooking spree again today!  It’s been a long time since we have had normalcy in our home (since before Christmas) so it was important to me to get some meals in the freezer for when Bryan returns home permanently and we have family dinners again.  I use disposable pans to make my meals and cover them with foil.  Then I put them into freezer bags that are labeled with the meal, the date it was made, and how long I have to use it.  These meals get put into the rotation when I create my monthly schedule.  In addition to prepared meals, I have packs of chicken and other meats in the freezer that can be made into something else.  This time around I did not marinate my chicken before freezing it. 

I made a total of 13 meals and one dessert in about 4 hours.  It is not difficult to do, it just takes planning and self-discipline.  One of my priorities is to have home cooked, meals for my family.  This is one of my ways of making sure that happens.

This is what I did:

I started with planning what I wanted to make.  I tallied up how many onions, how many cans of soup, how many pounds of meat etc. that I would need.  Then I checked my pantry, refrigerator, and freezer to see what I already had. Next stop, Costco.  After getting what I could from there, mostly the meat, I headed to the grocery store to finish filling my order.  This included getting any foil pans that I might need.

On cooking day, I gathered my recipes and all of my ingredients.

Then I began my cooking!  This is the order in which I prepared the meals:

Spaghetti Pie

1 package of spaghetti (a pound)

4 eggs, lightly beaten

2/3 cups grated Parmesan cheese

1 cup chopped onion

¼ cup butter, cubed

2 cups sour cream

2 tsp. Italian seasoning

2 lbs. Ground meat (beef, chicken, turkey, sausage)

2 cups water

1 can (12 oz.) tomato paste

1 cup shredded mozzarella cheese

½ cup shredded cheddar cheese

1. Cook spaghetti, drain and place in a large bowl.  Add eggs and Parmesan cheese.  Transfer to 3, greased, 9-in. pie plates.  Press onto the bottom and up the sides to form a crust.  Set aside.
2. Saute onion in butter until tender.  Remove from heat and sir in sour cream and Italian seasoning.  Spoon into the crusts.
3. Cook meat over medium heat until no longer pink, drain.  Stir in water and tomato paste.  Simmer, uncovered, 5-10 minutes or until thickened.  Spoon over sour cream mixture.  Sprinkle with the 2 cheeses.  (I did not measure the cheese, I used more J )
4. Cover and freeze for up to 1 month. 
5. To use frozen pies: completely thaw in the refrigerato.  Remove from refrigerator 30 minutes before baking.  Bake, covered, on 350 for 35-40 minutes or until heated through.

**I found that I had extra meat mixture so I reserved it for my next recipe.

Pizza Pasta Casserole

2 pounds of ground beef (you could use turkey or chicken)

1 large onion, chopped

2 jars (28 oz. Each) spaghetti sauce (*I found this was too much sauce)

1 package spiral pasta, cooked and drained

4 cups shredded mozzarella cheese

8 ounces of sliced pepperoni

1. Cook beef and onion over medium heat until meat is no longer pink, drain.  Stir in spaghetti sauce and pasta. (*I eyeballed the sauce so it wasn’t too much.  I also added in the extra meat from the first recipe.)
2. Transfer into 2 greased 13x9 inch baking dishes.  Sprinkle with cheese and arrange pepperoni over the top.  Cover and freeze for up to 3 months.
3. To use frozen casserole: Thaw in the refrigerator overnight.  Bake, uncovered, on 350 for 35-40 minutes or until heated through.

**I halved this recipe and then divided the ½ into 2 8-in. square pans.  That is a better sized portion for my family.

Enchilada Casserole

1 ½ lbs ground beef (you could use turkey or chicken)

1 large onion, chopped

1 cup of water

2-3 Tbls chili powder

1 ½ tsp salt

½ tsp pepper

¼ tsp garlic powder

2 cups of salsa, divided (I found that it takes more salsa than this)

10 flour tortillas (8 in.) cut into ¾ in. strips

1 cup sour cream

2 cans (15 ¼ oz each) whole kernel corn, drained

4 cups shredded mozzarella

1. Cook beef and onion over medium heat until beef is no longer pink.  Drain, stir in water, chili power, salt, pepper, and garlic powder.  Bring to a boil, reduce heat, simmer, uncovered for 10 minutes.
2. Place ¼ cup (I used more) salsa in 2 greased 8-in. square baking dishes.  Layer each dish with tortilla strips and more salsa.
3. Divide the meat mixture, sour cream, and corn between the 2 casseroles.  Top with remaining tortillas, salsa, and cheese.
4. Cover and freeze for up to one month.
5. To use frozen casserole: Thaw in refrigerator for up to 24 hrs. Remove from refrigerator 30 minutes before baking.  Bake, covered, on 350 for 35 minutes.  Uncover and back for 5-10 minutes longer or until heated through.

Chicken and Stuffing Casserole

4 cups of cooked chicken, cubed

1 cup of chopped celery

1 Tbls. chopped onion

4 Tbls. Parsley

2 cans of cream of chicken or cream of celery soup

1 can of milk

½ cup melted butter

4 cups of herb stuffing mix

Combine all ingredients, put in an aluminum lasagna pan and back 20 minutes at 400.

**I divided the recipe into 2 8-in. pans to make 2 meals.

Chicken Green Chili

1 quart of chicken broth

1 ¼ pounds of skinless, boneless chicken breasts

4 large handfuls of tortilla chips, plus more for serving

2 Tbls. Oil

about 1 cup of scallions

2 tsp dried oregano

2 tsp ground cumin

1 15 oz can of red beans, drained

1 cup of jarred green salsa

1. In a deep skillet, bring chicken broth and chicken breasts to a simmer over medium heat.  Reduce the heat and poach the chicken, turning occasionally, until just cooked through, about 10 minutes.  Transfer to a plate using a slotted spoon.
2. Crumble handfuls of tortilla chips into a food processor and add 3 cups of hot broth; let them sit to soften.  Reserve the remaining broth.
3. In a large saucepan, heat the oil over medium heat and add the scallions, oregano, and cumin.  Cook until scallions are soft, about 2 minutes.  Pour the remaining cup of broth into the scallion mixture, then stir in the beans and salsa.
4. Puree the chips and broth until smooth then whisk into the bean mixture.  Shred the chicken and add it to the chili.  Cook over medium-low heat, stirring, until heated through.
5. I divided this in half into 2 containers to freeze for later use.
6. To use frozen chili: Thaw in the refrigerator then heat in a saucepan.
7. Serve with extra tortilla chips, cheese, sour cream…whatever your favorite toppings are!

Meatloaf

1 ½ lbs. Ground beef (you could use turkey or chicken, but it doesn’t turn out as well)

½ cup breadcrumbs

½ cup carrot puree

2 Tbls. Olive oil

2 stalks of celery, chopped

½ onion

2 Tbls. Worcestershire sauce
2 Tbls. ketchup
1/3 cup milk

1. Heat olive oil and saute onion and celery.
2. Meanwhile, mix other ingredients in a large bowl.
3. Add the celery and onion mixture and combine well.
4. Divide into 2 loaf pans.
5. Bake for 30 minutes on 350. Remove and drain.
6. Cool, cover and freeze.
7. To use frozen meatloaf: Thaw in refrigerator overnight.  Bake, uncovered, on 350, 30-45 minutes or until cooked all the way through.

Ice Cream Cake

1 box of 12 ice cream sandwiches, any variety (you will use 11 sandwiches)

1 container of Cool Whip

candy topping of your choice (or crushed cookies, or sliced fruit)

1. I used an 8-in. square pan, put one layer of ice cream sandwiches down. (*the size of the cake varies depending on the size of your ice cream sandwiches)
2. Spread with Cool Whip, sprinkle on topping of your choice.
3. Layer the rest of the sandwiches.
4. Top with Cool Whip, sprinkle on more topping.
5. Cover with plastic wrap, then foil.
6. Freeze

**be creative!  Examples: Oreo sandwiches with crushed Oreos.  The one shown here is made from Neapolitan sandwiches (vanilla, strawberry, and banana ice cream) and I used chocolate chips.  I thought about adding sliced strawberries or bananas to this one.

Give credit where credit is due:

Recipes for: Spaghetti Pie, Enchilada Casserole, and Pizza Pasta Casserole were from Taste of Home Fall Freezer Meals, Oct. 27, 2010

Chicken and Stuffing is from my friend Mindy

Chicken Green Chili is from Everyday with Rachel Ray magazine

Meatloaf is a combination of my mom’s recipe and Jessica Seinfeld’s from Deceptively Delicious

Ice Cream Cake is from my friend Heather

**Healthy Eater Tip: Use whole-wheat pasta and reduced fat sour cream and cheese as well as reduced sodium soups and broths when preparing the meals to make them more healthful.

Look Who's Talking Now!!!

We went for Derek’s 18 month check up on November 26.  He remains in the 5^th percentile for height and weight.  However the doctor was very impressed with his vocabulary!  On the developmental check sheet it asks, “Can your child say 8 words other than Mama and Dada?”  I giggled when I saw that because my child can say at least 40 words other than Mama and Dada.  At this point he is not using Mama and Dada anymore either, it is Mommy and Daddy in our house.  Two of the best words ever uttered by an 18 month old!

So after refreshing my memory of what the expected vocabulary of an 18 month old is, I became very proud of my child’s accomplishments.  The average child his age says 5-20 words.  I do know that I was speaking complete sentences by the time I was 2 years old so this could be partly genetic.  But I also believe it has to do with the things we do with him at home.

1. We read 10-15 books to him every night.  He brings us book after book and we just keep reading them.  We point out pictures in the books and tell him what they are.  We ask him questions like “point to the bird” and he does. 
2. We limit T.V.  He “watches” maybe 30 minutes in the morning before going to daycare.  On the weekend it might be a little longer.  Generally he isn’t even interested in it anyway.  He only pays attention when there is a song.  At night, we don’t turn the T.V. on until after he goes to bed.  Many times we listen to music instead.  I made a play list on my ipod of kids songs for him.
3. Occasionally we watch Letter Factory by Leapfrog during dinner. It teachers the names of letters and the letter sounds.  At this point, he knows the sounds for A, B, C, D, F, H, P, and W.   
4. We have recently started asking him to say “please” and “thank you”.  Today he started doing it without prompting!  It was so exciting when he said “pees” for a piece of chicken and “tank u” when I handed it to him.  It melted my heart!
5. We never correct him when he says words incorrectly (which is the majority of the time).  We also never use his version of the word when we say it so that he will hear it correctly and eventually correct it himself.  For example, he says “nana” for banana.  We always say “do you want a banana?”  or “here’s a banana.”  Modeling correct vocabulary is important.  We never said “baba” for bottle.
6. In addition to his vocabulary and letter sounds, he also knows several animal noises and all of his body parts.  These are all things we practice with him at home.

We do all of the above things because they are a priority for us.  Sitting him in front of the T.V. because we have things to do is not something we are into.  This is probably why we have so many unfinished projects going on.  We don’t do things for “us” until after he goes to bed.  It’s all about priorities.

It is important to remember that all children develop at different rates.  The activities you do at home can help foster this development, but they still won’t do it until they are ready.

http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/development/language_development.shtml

http://www.babycenter.com/0_toddler-milestone-talking_11738.bc

Feeding Time part 2

Being a full-time working mother, with a child who goes to bed early (by 7:30 P.M.), I try to maximize my time with my son without jeopardizing his nutrition.  We have never been ones to eat at fast food restaurants, but have done our share of eating out when we just didn’t feel like cooking.  With a child, we knew this was not practical.  It was too expensive, and his behavior isn’t always predictable.

Eating Out

On the RARE occasion we do eat out, we go to dinner at 5 P.M.  This way there are fewer people in the restaurant and we have a better chance of him being in a good mood.  I usually bring snacks and sometimes other food that he might like in case he isn’t “in the mood” for what is on the menu, since at 18 months old, he has his own opinions and meal times are much more challenging than when he was 8 months old.  Although, if pasta is an option, there is a good chance he will be happy.  There are only a few restaurants that we choose from as well.  Places like Red Robin and Panera are good choices for him because they are usually loud (which drowns out his noise) and have things on the menu that he will eat.  Many times I ask for his food to be brought out first so that he can begin eating.  He also takes longer to eat than we do so this allows him more time to eat his food.  We have been known to ask for our food to be boxed up so that we could leave because he was not in a good mood.  Just another thing we now have to realize might happen with a child.

There are also ways that we save money when we eat out.  We look for coupons so that we aren’t paying for our entire meal.  Some restaurants offer Kids Eat Free nights.  They may be more crowded, but everyone there has a kid so we know ours won’t be the only one being loud.  Everyone there is in the same position as us so we all understand.  Finally, we MAYBE eat out once a month, but usually not that often.  I can’t remember the last time we went out to dinner???

While it is a rarity for us to eat out in a restaurant, we do feel it is important to do this on occasion so that Derek will learn how to behave in public.  If he were to never go out to eat until an age that we think he might behave, we still might not get the result that we want because he had never practiced it before. 

Eating In

I am a Costco shopper.  I go once every couple of months and stock up on meat.  I am also a planner.  I plan out my dinners a week in advance so that I know what I need to get at the store and so when I get home from work I don’t have to figure out what to have for dinner.  Well, in October, I decided to kick it up a notch.  After my Costco shopping trip, I planned out my meals FOR A MONTH!!!  Then, I prepared a bunch of them ahead of time!  I made spinach stuffed shells, meatloaf, taco meat, hamburgers in gravy (a family favorite), and I marinated chicken before freezing.  I did 4 different flavors: Bar-B-Que, honey mustard, Italian, and balsamic vinegar.  Then I froze the chicken in their marinades.  I left some of the meat as is in case I wanted to make something different.  I already had pork chops and tenderloins in the freezer and we always have frozen pizza on hand and frozen veggies.

When I planned out my meals, I took into consideration all of the things that were prepared ahead of time and other items that I had on hand.  I also made sure to schedule in the nights that we had outings already planned and nights that it was just Mommy and Derek or Daddy and Derek.  The month just ended yesterday and it was a success!  I was less stressed when I got home from work because most of the meals were already prepared.  All I had to do was take it out of the freezer and put it in the oven for about an hour and it was done.  This gave me more time to spend with Derek instead of spending all of my time preparing dinner and not getting to play with him and then having to put him to bed almost immediately after we ate.  I have already begun my next month of planning which will take me up until Christmas.

What made me want to do all of this?  My priorities have changed since I had a child.  HE is my priority.  Only having three hours at home with him on weeknights is not a lot.  It is important to me to spend that time WITH him.  Having dinner planned and prepared ahead of time helps tremendously.